Me as an Internet Curmudgeon

I’ve been watching social media for a while and I’m come to the conclusion that I’m an internet curmudgeon. I’m one who sits back and shakes my head and facepalms when I see some of these posts shared on social media.
Just a sampling of what I’ve seen.

  • “I’m sorry for being awesome.”
  • A play by play tweet marathon when a relative had a mental breakdown (some things are best left private)
  • A 30 something year old man taking frequent selfies.
  • Facebook posts of wounded feet. Bee stings on Instagram.

Now I call myself a curmudgeon because I feel like I’m an exception to what is the norm these days. Facebook and Twitter were made for narcissists. And some people get some kind of justification in life for retweets and likes on Facebook. And slowly I see how the general public really is worse off than what I initially suspected.

Seth MacFarlane is a hypocrite

During the week of the Boston Marathon Bombing someone spliced together some Family Guy scenes with Peter Griffin running over marathon runners and blowing up a bridge via cell phone. To which Seth MacFarlane, the show’s creator tweeted:

I was watching Family Guy the other day and lo and behold there was a joke about 9/11. Seth, you’re a hypocrite.

Birthdays on Facebook

This past week I celebrated my birthday…both in person with family and friends and virtually on social media…primarily if not exclusively, Facebook.
Now some people might enjoy getting Happy Birthday wishes from people they haven’t spoken to in 20 years. Yet somehow I found it quite creepy. Has this become the extent of our relationship? A lone birthday greeting once a year? Do some people feel obligated to log on to Facebook each day just to check on birthdays and wish them well? Is that the extent of some people’s social media activity?
And yet I got more out of people wishing me happy birthday in person or through a card. Facebook is so fickle.

That red equal sign

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Last week in conjunction with the Supreme Court hearing cases involving gay marriage conflicts, many of my Facebook friends changed their avatars to the image to the right. During this whole experience I found myself growing more and more angry because of the profile photo changes.
While I understand the tendency to choose one side or another I do believe people have various reasons for changing avatars. These include:

  • Bandwagon jumping – some people have a tendency to get caught up in the moment without necessarily thinking things through.
  • Slacktivism – Thinking one is doing something to make a difference…like changing your Facebook profile picture, but in reality it does very little at all. Remember the last time this happened?
  • Rebellion against the way they were brought up. Liberal children of conservative parents. “My parents hate that I’m liberal? I’ll show them!”
  • They truly identify with being gay or lesbian. (This is really the only legitimate reason for doing this. The rest is all just pandering.)

As a Christian, by moral reasons I cannot support sin. God’s Word is very clear that homosexual acts are sinful (Romans 1:27). As a Christian, I do not rejoice in sin. Rather we should flee from sin (1 Cor. 6:18).
It is disappointing that many people who claim to know the Bible completely brush off the Bible verses which condemn homosexual acts. Also I find it disappointing that many people try to point out obscure levitical verses in the Old Testament which justify stoning, when the Old Testament law isn’t even effect anymore (Colossians 2:14).
I simply wish that those who support homosexuality confirm that they are going against what the Bible teaches. In short, quit trying to have your cake and eat it too.
However homosexuality has become the “go to” sin which the majority of Christians can agree is wrong. When ministers preach a sermon on homosexuality, he is pretty much preaching to the choir. What is not emphasized is that gossiping (backbiters in New King James language) is put in the same category as homosexuality. (Romans 1:26-32). Yet Christians have a tendency to demonize homosexuality and brush off gossiping, as they are guilty of the latter themselves.
But where churches have failed is they are not showing love to homosexuals. Instead when out of church, many Christians tell gay jokes and bully those struggling with homosexuality. And yet we read in 1 Corinthians that some of the early Christians were homosexuals, but repented of their sin.

9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
–1 Corinthians 6:9-11

In short Christians need to quit bullying homosexuals and try to work for a change of heart. The love of God knows no bounds. God loves the sinner. He is willing that none should perish (2 Peter 3:9).
Homosexual supporters too need to be careful on what words they use against Christians. Calling a Christian a “bigot” is incredibly insulting considering the good that Christians have done for humanity over the years. Sure, Christians had the crusades and other terrible acts. But they are also responsible for caring for orphans and setting up hospitals. Using the word “bigot” or other strong language from either side is counterproductive and will only serve to alienate both sides.

Death by Facebook

I recently learned of the sudden death of a beloved teacher via Facebook. I hadn’t seen her in 15 years, but the death was still tragic. After a few days I figured most people had already been made aware of the death by car accident. As somewhat of a tribute I decided to post an old photo of her on Facebook and make mention that she had passed suddenly. However I soon found that not everyone had heard of her passing. It was a shock to many of my friends and friends of friends.
I felt bad, after I had the same thing happening to me…that is finding out about the sudden death (read suicide) of a friend via Facebook about two years ago. Sometimes a hot news story trumps tactfulness. The media frenzy surrounding the Aurora movie theater shooting comes to mind.
Everyone knows how fickle Facebook is. From those barrages of baby photos, Someecards, and hidden viruses, there remains very little substance of value on Facebook. One does not simply announce to the world about the death of a friend via a Facebook posting. A phone call or private message will do. I posted the story not to sensationalize the tragedy, but more of a tribute. I regret that not everyone knew about it. I will try better in the future.

Facebook

Gradually I’ve become interested in Facebook. Although I don’t see myself as getting a Facebook account anytime soon due to various reasons. Most Facebook users are there to connect with old friends. While others, it seems, try to connect with as many friends as possible. Where do you draw the line? Is it people who you would sit down and have a conversation with or go out to eat with? Or would it be that person you sorta knew in college, but never really hung out with?
The problem it seems as with the internet in general is that we have developed ways of having virtual friendships. People we meet online. Instant messages. Yet we never really have time to do things in the real world. We feel safe in front of our computers reading wall postings and feel as though we’re important as long as there’s always someone online in our 200+ member buddy list. It’s time to ask ourselves, has Facebook, Instant Messaging and even the Internet itself hurt face to face communication? I think it has. Even before we go out, we must check our email, something unheard of 20 years ago. We spend hours on the computer, updating our Facebook profiles, but never seem to get out of the house.
I’m sure some people live for Facebook wall posts and friend requests, much like others are addicted to World of Warcraft or Second Life. This is nothing new. I saw it in college were people gradually dropped out after discovering text based adverture games via the internet. They would spend all day in computer labs and then the next semester they were gone. A semester’s worth of tuition wasted.
My distain for my own Facebook account is the problem with too much information. I’ve read blog posts and seen pictures of persons from the past and it’s somewhat troubling. Am I getting too much information? Information that I didn’t want to know? Information that I shouldn’t know? And yet even as I write this on my own blog, I am guilty of that same occurance. Certainly I’ve posted some thing here that I shouldn’t have posted (which is why the archives for this blog aren’t available).
Still even looking through what limited information is available for non-users on Facebook, I’ve found myself repelled from it. Perhaps it’s ghosts of the past of cruel people I want to forget.
Coupled with Facebook is my own similar distaste for Myspace. Myspace is much more freeform than Facebook and information is even more readily available. I’ve ranted about the hyprocracy of Myspace, and since Facebook remains of mature clone of Myspace, I couldn’t very well obtain a Facebook account without looking like a hypocrite.
So there it is, dear reader, why I don’t use Facebook. At least not at this point in my life. Convince me otherwise and I might think about getting a membership one of these days.