Is there a church cool kids club at church? Before we get into a popularity contest, let me explain.

There are certain ministries that do get alot of attention such as student ministry, vacation Bible school, and mission work. Those are always the ones posted on social media and written about in the bulletin. Then there are certain ministries that are more maintenance to the church that keep the cogs rolling but are rarely talked about at church. You wouldn’t exactly see a housewife posting selfies while washing baptismal garments.

It’s those people, usually introverts, who serve as background or extras on the church stage. Those introverts rarely seek out ministries. Rather they expect, in some instances long for, to be asked to take part in a ministry.

I believe there are these quiet introverts in all ministries. Even in the first ministry, with the twelve apostles how often do you hear about Bartholomew written about?

But then there is a possible fallacy, but in some instances, truth, that if you aren’t asked to be part of a ministry then it is a rejection. Even more so sometimes introverts are part of a ministry but then there are some “cool kids” (read people who are louder and more popular) who take away their ministry. It can be devastating.

I don’t think that those church “cool kids” understand introverts, or even make much of an effort to feel what they feel. Instead they kinda take them for granted, not knowing how not being asked to take part in a ministry can be a subtle rejection by a church leader to that person. That person might even feel it could be a salvation issue, i.e. not being good enough for a ministry and therefore being a bad Christian.

I hold alot of emotional baggage with ministries. I have been a part of ministries but then I was subtly asked (in one case threatened) not to be a part of ministries. It hurt…alot. I found myself becoming less involved at church due to this. Occasionally I look through social media posts on ministries that I was a part of and wonder what could have been had I not been rejected. It’s a mind game with myself. Here it is a ministry that is so much about being inclusive, and yet has rejected myself from being a part of it. Heartbreaking for myself and hypocritical for those doing the rejecting.