College is a time when friends are physically close to you. Across the hall, in the same room. Seemingly never before would friendship be as close as it was then.
I dreamt last night that I was back in college finishing my degree. I was sharing a house with 3 of my closer friends from college. Past dreams have focused on my inability to complete my class requirements. In this dream I was actually looking forward to college.
My freshmen and sophomore college years were some of the best years of my life. I’ve been out of college for 12 years now, yet I look back at those years positively for the most part.
My college friends have since scattered and went back to their own hometowns or wherever their jobs, career, spouse, or God took them. My high school friends have moved away. I’m left alone as one of the few left back in my hometown.
In a sense I believe my friendships have narrowed, not through anyone’s fault. It would be more in a sense of physical distance. I have friends across the country in various states. We are still good friends, but it is difficult to continue on a close friendship with the distance is so far away.
Also in a sense it is difficult for me to gain new friends, as I have found that I rarely have much in common with other thirtysomethings. I do need friends right now, but I’m unable or unwilling to go about gaining new friends.